You are allowed to do stuff just because you want to.
Even if it uses up all your spoons/matches.
Even if it leaves your exhausted and broken the next day.
Even if you need to let other stuff slide a bit while you recover.
You are allowed to have fun, to go out, to take a day once in a while and do what you want with it.
(I needed to hear this today, so I figured other folks might too.)
@reibeatall Parenting-shaming for daring to put yourself first sometimes is a real and shitty thing.
Speaking from personal experience, always "putting your kids first" is actually a good way to fuck your kids up. But it's so hard to find time TO do stuff for you.
I've found I need to schedule my me-time an average of a month in advance to be sure I'll be able to take it. Don't wait for the chance to do stuff you want to come--make the chance.