Jess Mahler @jessmahler@wandering.shop

Okay folks, I've been asked a question about managing needs and expectations in #polyamory. For future reference, as long as I have spoons and time I am always happy to answer questions for polyam folks trying to figure stuff out.

This will probably be a long thread, so hiding the rst behind a CW. Feel free to read along and share your experience/insights.

If you are new to the Fediverse and want to follow me, PLEASE at least have *something* in your profile and an #introductions post.

We were all new once, I get it. But I'm not going to accept follow requests from folks with blank profiles and no toots.

Give me some way to learn about who you are.

For the first time in, like, two+ years, The Polyamorous Home is outselling Polyamory and Pregnancy.

Barely outselling, but outselling.

Can't help wondering why the flip, but, hey, as long as the total sales numbers keep going up, I'm not gonna complain, right?

Granted, in this case the whole 'hunting magical boar with swords' probably should have clued me in a book or two ago about this being a waste or time. But I'll overlook a lot when a book is holding my anxiety at bay.

Look, if I get to the last book of your trilogy (or more than 3/4s of the way through your stand-alone novel) and your main characters who are *supposed* to be partners are still sneaking around and lying to each other, you better *hope* I don't leave a review because my main take away is going to be that you wasted my time reading about characters who didn't learn fuck-all during the course of the story.

#amnotreading #rant

Tradition is The Support Frame — Generational Home

Last week I spent a while talking about how economic stability is the foundation of a family, and for a family that will hold together through the generations, this usually means a family business to provide that stability.

The caveat, that I didn't mention last week is that this assumes the family business is successful. Obviously, and unsuccessful fami

https://jessmahler.com/tradition-is-the-support-frame-generational-home/

I was enjoying this series until we got to the first combat scene.

While the hell would experienced knights hunt a boar with swords?
While the hell would experienced knights hunt a *magic* *oversized* *intelligent* boar with swords?

Their called boar spears for a god-damn reason!

*grumble grumble grumble*

#amreading

Got the marigolds repotted. Waited to long as one of them was badly rootbound, and the others starting to get that way. Aside from that, everything went well.

Unfortunately, for some reason I can't just put the new pots in a bucket of water and have them absorb water and water them that way. Not sure why, but I *think* the way the bottom of the pot is shaped is trapping air and keeping water from reaching the drain holes.

Am grumped.

#IndoorGardening

Morning all.

Gonna try repotting my marigolds today. First time repotting /anything/, so fingers crossed.

What are your plans for the day?

#IndoorGardening

Made phone call to pay bill. Got panic attack.

Why is it actually easier to physically go down to the office to pay the bill than use the phone?

I wonder if there's a level of... dysphoria or dissociation or... I don't know the word. But like it fucks with my head to have what I'm hearing not align with what I'm seeing?

Is that a thing?

Except I love talking on the phone w/ friends and family. It's only non-social phone calls I have trouble with.

#ActuallyAutistic #mentalhealth

On the one hand, I didn't get any work on my fiction done this week. 😢

On the other hand, I'm 2000 words ahead of my progress goals for #PolyamAndKink 🎉

#amwriting

It's kind of weird to me that I get a notification after I approve a follow require, but not when I get a follow request.

Is adding a follow request notification possible?

@phildini @Gargron #meta

Morning all.

I've been struggling for a while with how I'm going to observe Sukkot. The apartment complex we live in will NOT let me build a sukkah, and given current situation I don't think I can make it to/handle the celebration/sukkah raising my synagogue does.

I think what I'm going to try to do is eat at least one meal a day outside. Start with dinner on the erev and then lunch during the day. If I can manage one, it's a win, if I can manage both, even better.

#judaism #selfcare