Jess Mahler @jessmahler@wandering.shop

This topic is one that I have been gaslit about, seen (black) people pull the "well my Polynesian friend doesn't think it's a problem", seen (white) leaders in the #polyamory community call Polynesians speaking out about this trolls.

The lengths I have heard polyam people go to invalidate Polynesians on this is disgusting.

I am DONE with this fucking debate.

There's a meme going around twitter saying that your stripper name is your favorite salad dressing and the thing about you that most disappoints your parents.

Salad dressing is easy--I always and only use a balsamic vinagrette.

The other? How the hell could I chose?

I need a better way to easy myself back into 'normal' after Shabbat.

Diving right into the deep end of social media after 24 hours away (bc need to feel connected with ohter people) is NOT good for my mental health.

For other folks learning #asl (including my #actuallyautistic peeps) --
Rocky mountain School for the Deaf has several awesome playlists on youtube of #Deaf teachers telling stories from popular kids books.

Good practice, and VERY fun to watch!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C70HST10Wq4&list=PLM43Rq802SyuvagVXFjXokLfIZ0TtDMWy

Shabbat is over and I'm easy back into 'normal' time. I was able to do a better observance than usual.

I do hope that one day I will in a place, mentally, physically, socially, where I can actually live up to my ideal standards of observance.

Until then, like the farmer in the Baal Shem's story, I trust God to make something beautiful out of my Aleph-Bet.

#judaism

#goodstuffiread

“I Don’t Want to Shoot You, Brother”
A shocking story of police and lethal force. Just not the one you might expect.
https://features.propublica.org/weirton/police-shooting-lethal-force-cop-fired-west-virginia #racism #police

The Best Technology for Fighting Climate Change Isn't a Technology
https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/observations/the-best-technology-for-fighting-climate-change-isnt-a-technology/ #tech #climate

Deaf Culture Totally Had A Moment: 2018 Edition
https://www.buzzfeed.com/lydiacallis/deaf-culture-totally-had-a-moment-2018-edition-k8ro #deaf

99 Good News Stories You Probably Didn’t Hear About in 2018
https://medium.com/future-crunch/99-good-news-stories-you-probably-didnt-hear-about-in-2018-cc3c65f8ebd0 #selfcare #positive

Being fair, my mother did start yoga and taichi, but only when I was in highschool and college, and by then my own patterns were set.

So, yeah, lots of thoughts.

And hoping that my kids interest means that by modeling healthy exercise patterns myself, I'll give my kids a better start.

So here I am, the stereotypical mid-thirties and getting serious about exercise for the first time in my adult life. (Granting, I've been TRYING to get serious for several years, health issues kept interfering.)

And I wonder what would have been different if I ever saw my parents exercise? If they didn't pull their bikes out only for family rides. If the various exercise machines hadn't sat unused.

It's been interesting seeing the kids monkey-see, monkey-do with my exercise routine. Because they see me exercising, they want to join in and exercise themselves. They ask about the names of exercises I do and try them out.

And I remember how my parents encouraged us to exercise--not in so many words, but wanted us to ride bikes or sign up for little leagues or take swimming lessons or dance classes. And as much as I enjoyed those things, the older I got, the less I did.