Erik L. Midtsveen 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈<p>Recently I’ve been thinking about taking a step back from my friendship with my mom, maybe just talking to her less.</p><p>Sometimes I honestly wonder if I’m just misinterpreting things, but it really seems like she’s uncomfortable with me being fucking queer, especially with me hanging around other queer people at my local gay bar. She’ll question who I’m with and lately it feels like she’s always picking at my life choices. I can’t tell if it’s just me being sensitive, or if she’s actually trying to control what I do.</p><p>She’s called me “paranoid” or outright weird just for wanting to live my life and make my own choices, like there’s something wrong with standing out or not fitting in with what she expects. It makes me question myself, but I know I just want to do my own thing, hang out where I feel I belong, and be authentic.</p><p>Maybe I’m overanalyzing this, could be the autism, or maybe I really am taking it the wrong way. But it gets exhausting having everything I do, or even just who I am, up for debate all the time.</p><p>To add to this, my dad actually appreciates me, he respects my life choices and is genuinely happy that I spend time with people who accept me for who I am. I really love my dad for that. But honestly, it’s hard for me to feel the same way about my mom if she isn’t happy with me just being myself.</p><p>And in case you ever wondered, yeah, Mom, I’ve kissed a guy.</p><p>Am I really the only one dealing with this kind of stuff from family, or do other people go through it too? If you’ve been in a similar spot, what would you do, or what advice do you have for handling it?</p><p>I know the image isn’t the best choice for this, but honestly, I just felt like putting up a picture. If she ever does come across it, maybe she’ll at least get a sense of how I’m feeling right now.</p><p><a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/FamilyIssues" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>FamilyIssues</span></a> <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/MomIssues" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>MomIssues</span></a> <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/Autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Autistic</span></a> <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/Queer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Queer</span></a> <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/Bisexual" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Bisexual</span></a> <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/AskFedi" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AskFedi</span></a> <a href="https://social.linux.pizza/tags/LGBTQIA" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>LGBTQIA</span></a></p>