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Pianozzino<p>Narcissistic Abuse is Real and It Will Make Anyone Question Their Own Sanity - Spoiler (You’re Not Crazy) <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Trump" target="_blank">#Trump</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23GOP" target="_blank">#GOP</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Maga" target="_blank">#Maga</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Cult" target="_blank">#Cult</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23NarcissisticAbuse" target="_blank">#NarcissisticAbuse</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23TraumaBond" target="_blank">#TraumaBond</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Trauma" target="_blank">#Trauma</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Victim" target="_blank">#Victim</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Abuse" target="_blank">#Abuse</a> <a class="hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" href="https://bsky.app/search?q=%23Gaslighting" target="_blank">#Gaslighting</a> <a href="https://youtu.be/1LoaByu5l4U?si=GwQ4BGpcTKtXp_r7" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">youtu.be/1LoaByu5l4U?...</a><br><br><a href="https://youtu.be/1LoaByu5l4U?si=GwQ4BGpcTKtXp_r7" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">America is a cult &amp; we have to...</a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>So, my narc ex with whom I co-parent figured out today that I consider them a <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissist</span></a>. It was an oopsie on my part (they stumbled across a book I'm reading on narcissism).</p><p>They asked me about it. If I'm reading it because of them. I replied that I'm reading it to make sense of my family history and past experiences. To help me grow as a person. No lies but also not the whole truth.</p><p>Let's see what happens next. I expect nothing good. I am however surprisingly calm. What can they do? Make me trust them even less? Lol.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyaudhd" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyaudhd</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>If you cannot go no contact your next best bet is <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/greyRocking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>greyRocking</span></a> or <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/yellowRocking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>yellowRocking</span></a>. You become non-reactive to their actions. You stay calm, controlled, rational, and emotionally disengaged. It's hard but possible.</p><p>When you do that you take away the abuser's power over you. They no longer can control you through your emotions. Just be prepared: they'll most likely double down on the abuse before accepting the fact that you can no longer be controlled by them. And they'll most likely never stop probing you as long as you are still in contact with them.</p><p>If you can go no contact. Do it for yourself. You deserve better.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>abuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/emotionalAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>emotionalAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>Breaking the <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/traumaBond" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>traumaBond</span></a> that binds you to your abuser is hard work. You literally go through the stages of grief, as part of breaking it requires you to let go of the shared delusion that your abuser is a "good person".</p><p>This means that you lose the person you thought they were. All while potentially still interacting with them. All while potentially still being subjected to their manipulations.</p><p>This is why people recommend going no contact. Healing from abuse requires you to re-center yourself in your reality, in your perception. And that results in your abuser having less control. Spoiler: they don't want that.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>abuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/emotionalAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>emotionalAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>Talking with a <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissist</span></a> about your emotions is a pointless endeavor. Worse: it's dangerous as they'll use this information against you later.</p><p>They are not interested in finding a solution that helps all involved parties to emotionally regulate. They are interested in the solution that helps them alone emotionally regulate. Bonus points if they guilt trip you into finding that solution.</p><p>Let me be clear: if someone makes you feel guilty about your behavior while refusing to cooperate on finding a solution that works for everyone, that's manipulation. That's emotional abuse.</p><p>Someone who truly cares about you would want to resolve the issue in a way that works for both them *and* you.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/traumaHealing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>traumaHealing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/healing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>healing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>You do not need permission, validation, acceptance of other people to be and love who you are.</p><p>The person closest to you is *yourself*. "Love your neighbour" is great and all but it's worthless unless you love thyself. Love yourself. Just the way you are *right now*. With all your messes, weirdness, and unresolved pain and trauma. You are worthy of love.</p><p>Healthy relationships will lift you up. They will encourage you to be who you really are. They will empower you. They won't tear you down and make you doubt yourself and your worth. People who do that don't love you. Not really. Even if they tell you differently.</p><p>Rise strong and reach for your stars. You are important. You matter. I see you.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/healing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>healing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/traumaHealing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>traumaHealing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>autism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a></p>
Marina Vorobeva<p>2022, 11 days before the war.</p><p>I tried as hard as I could to concentrate on MUA and self-portrait photography. But on the 24th of February 2022 I couldn't sleep at all, reading the news all night long. Something inside me broke badly that night.</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/awareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>awareness</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/relief" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>relief</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/anxiety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anxiety</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/anorexia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anorexia</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/sleepdisorder" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>sleepdisorder</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/narcissisticabuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticabuse</span></a></p>
Marina Vorobeva<p>2022, 1 month before the war.</p><p>I was on my way back to my normal weight when the war started to feel closer. I still couldn't believe it was happening. Who starts wars in the XXI century? Isn't soft power a better solution? I started eating emotionally again and sleeping badly. The ADs didn't help at all.</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/awareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>awareness</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/relief" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>relief</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/anxiety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anxiety</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/anorexia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anorexia</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/sleepdisorder" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>sleepdisorder</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/narcissisticabuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticabuse</span></a></p>
Marina Vorobeva<p>2019-2020<br>It's been about 3 months since I started therapy for the anxiety and depression I've had for 15 years. A long way to go.</p><p>Here I'm still prone to anorexia, but I'm euphoric because I've regained the ability to sleep and the strength to live my life to the full.</p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/awareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>awareness</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/relief" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>relief</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/anxiety" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anxiety</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/anorexia" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>anorexia</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/sleepdisorder" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>sleepdisorder</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/narcissisticabuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticabuse</span></a></p>
Michael The Anonymous<p>If you can't even feel empathy for a man that was crucified on a cross for telling you to love one another, perhaps there is something wrong with you. Time for some self-reflection. Oh that's for everyone else right? </p><p><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/Narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/NarcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>NarcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/clarity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>clarity</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/mirror" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>mirror</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:Trauma processing (narcissistic abuse, hate)
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>(2/2)</p><p>This belief was taken from me. I now understand that there are unsafe people in this world. Not because they don't know any better (those exist too) but because they don't want to know any better. They are okay with the way they are. They are okay with hurting others.</p><p>It's good that I finally understand that not everybody is trust worthy. But in a way I miss the naiveté of my old reality. The world was a better place, even if it was a fantasy.</p><p>To everyone who reads this and relates: Let this melancholy be a reminder to stay safe and to be better than those who hurt us. Let's be the change we want to see in this world.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/survical" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>survical</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/traumaHealing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>traumaHealing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neuroqueer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neuroqueer</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>I've survived over 10 years of <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> in my marriage. I've been only beginning to reclaim my reality after having lived in their reality in which I was defective, overly emotional, needy, and largely good for nothing.</p><p>Life has been overall good to me recently. I'm in a wonderful new relationship. I'm building a support network with people who genuinely care about me and my well-being. I'm learning to be more kind to myself. It's hard work but it's worth it.</p><p>Despite all of that what remains is this intangible sense of sadness. A persistent low-key melancholy. I used to be a person who genuinely believed that everyone was trying to do their best in their own unique way. That we all were in the same boat that is life and nobody, regardless of their lived experience, was trying to rock it just for their own enjoyment.</p><p>(1/2)</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/survical" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>survical</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/traumaHealing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>traumaHealing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neuroqueer" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neuroqueer</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>You wanna pay back the <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissist</span></a> in your life? The biggest punishment for a narcissist is being ignored. Do not pay them attention of any kind. Don't let their reality impact yours or only as minimally as possible.</p><p>In the world of a narcissist only their reality matters. Your reality is by definition wrong and nothing you do can change that. Their actions are by definition just and good. But what if they do something that's clearly cruel and harmful?</p><p>Remember the narcissistic prayer? That. They change their reality so that their actions are now again just and good. And if that means that they have to throw you under the bus they'll not hesitate to do so. They will literally construct false realities in which you are the most vile human being to have ever walked the earth, all in a (largely unconscious!) effort to turn them into a victim who didn't have another choice but to harm you deeply.</p><p>Don't let their reality become your reality. Ignore them.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>Having to maintain my relationship to the <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissist</span></a> that abused me is becoming the biggest challenge of my life. No contact is not an option as we have kids.</p><p>I'm processing the emotional abuse I experienced. I'm grieving the woman that never was her. It's a lot of very raw and very intense emotions.</p><p>And I'm doing all of that while I need to regularly interact with my abuser. It's a gigantic mind fuck.</p><p>I'm reclaiming a lot of my agency by <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/yellowRocking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>yellowRocking</span></a> extensively. Killing her with kindness. Ignoring her emotional baits that are meant to trigger a fight I'd lose anyway. I'm getting <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/revenge" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>revenge</span></a> by being my best fucking self. Let the kids see that unconditional kindness is possible while enforcing boundaries.</p><p>But I'm not gonna lie. It takes my everything. Being kind to my abuser when everything in me screams for justice is a challenge like no other. <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/RadicalAcceptance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>RadicalAcceptance</span></a> is most definitely non-optional.</p><p>I might not win the battles but I will win the war.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>Processing <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> requires you to upheave your entire world. It requires you to recontextualize the entire relationship you had with the person who abused you. It requires looking at things again and realizing that this situation was in fact abusive. That making you feel confusion, hurt, sadness, and especially fear, were not a mistake but the intention.</p><p>You need to do all that while grieving the loss of the person you thought you loved. They were never real. And I really mean never. They were a fabrication created by a predator that exploited your psychological weaknesses to devour you like a lion.</p><p>This will sound crass to some of you. Many will think I'm exaggerating. But those of you who survived narcissistic abuse know: what I wrote doesn't even come close to capturing the horror of realizing that the person you loved never loved you back but instead only sought to dominate and exploit you as a source of narcissistic supply.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>abuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a></p>
Sabi<p><strong>CPTSD – mild content warning Self Delete</strong></p><p><a href="https://sabilewcreates.com/cptsd-mild-content-warning-self-delete/" class="" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">https://sabilewcreates.com/cptsd-mild-content-warning-self-delete/</a></p>
Vox and the Pack :Fire_Enby:<p>How does one recognize whether or not what one experienced was narcissistic abuse?</p><p>It's not like one can ask the hypothetical abuser. They will deny it. Is learning about the patterns of narcissistic abuse and subsequently recognizing how they show up in one's lived experience the best one can do?</p><p>I find that a very unsatisfactory conclusion but it does seem like the best one can do. I probably lived in a relationship with at least narcissistic abuse patterns. And the unsolvable ambiguity of it all bothers me.</p><p><a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/abuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>abuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/psychologicalAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>psychologicalAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissisticAbuse" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissisticAbuse</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/narcissism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>narcissism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/relationships" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>relationships</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/trauma" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>trauma</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/healing" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>healing</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergent</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/neurodivergence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>neurodivergence</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/ADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>ADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyADHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyADHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/Autism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>Autism</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/autistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>autistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAutistic" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAutistic</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/AuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>AuDHD</span></a> <a href="https://tech.lgbt/tags/actuallyAuDHD" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">#<span>actuallyAuDHD</span></a></p>
Auden WolfRe-introduction
Continued thread

Would like to follow un-normal people who are as inconsistent as I am.
One day post photos of cats, food, moss, next day rage against the government's herd immunity policy, be quiet and thoughtful the next. 
Sometimes I actually manage to say something insightful or funny.

Mostly I'm looking for a place where it's safe to be me until the fear which has ruled my life is gone. Then everywhere will be safe.