probably still not going to use this much, because i'm pulling away from this particular style of social interaction (i think it's corrosive and dangerous). but i'm locking and purging at the birdsite, and i need some kind of avenue for contact info.

masto meta 

hiya! i'm not using this social network at all, and i'm not likely to in the future. just a heads-up; if you need to contact me, i assume you have other ways to do so. Thanks!

@klara yup. i went into it in a bit more detail on fb, but it is definitely my own shit at work here.

@AudreyJune it does hurt less eventually!

(the redness is constant tho)

oddly, the difficulty i have using the masto interface alienates me from the conversations that are happening, and give me (whether I want it or not) a more healthy distance.

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The Twitter version of this lesson is 'mutuals are not friends', and I really wasn't emotionally prepared for that fact, and so I got hurt pretty badly. And deleting all my twitter accounts is maybe overreaction, but at the same time it's like recoiling away from a pain source... it's a reflex, and I can't help it.

anyway, this is random rambling at this point, and I probably should have CWed it for length.

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the thing about twitter, and social media generally -- but it feels much worse on twitter -- is the false sense of closeness it gives. i end up interacting with someone so much, and so often, that i start to imagine we're friends. and sometimes we are? but not always.

one of the lessons i had to teach myself about... 10 years ago, I guess, is 'co-workers are not friends.'

I'm reducing my social media presence to as low as i can go while still vaguely being a semi public figure so if you need to contact me and you don't know how, dm me and I'll send you my messenger information.

kink roll call 

@AudreyJune it me


I am pretty happy with how this makeup held up over a very very long day


@AudreyJune heck 😳

(I use all kinds of silly products to make them happen)

(also this was an extremely nice compliment; thank you)

@QuestForTori so what's your typical routine? i stopped using powder to set my foundation because it felt like it made my face look cake-y, but I feel like I was doing it wrong.

@klara i suspect i just have to *internalize* these rules, because it's not rational when i hesitate to say something; it's a gut reaction that 'oh no someone will see what i am saying eeeep'

I interrogated myself to figure out why I feel nervous about posting things here, and I think it's that I don't have a good grasp of privacy and social media hygiene on Masto. Like I'm sure it's plenty robust, i just don't know how it works entirely, and so I feel uncomfortable.

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