Good insight into figuring out that you're not cis: https://aninjusticemag.com/am-i-trans-a-roadmap-to-figuring-out-the-toughest-question-7bb0e809a32d
Written by a trans woman, so, more examples from that direction, but I'd recommend it to anyone who feels "as if their gender were a pair of wet socks that they could never quite find a way to take off".
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