I found this a while ago and have been meaning to share it already: https://medium.com/@CassieLaBelle/gender-dysphoria-isnt-what-you-think-6fdc7ae3ac85
Dysphoria's a great concept for sorting your past and present feelings once you've figured out you have gender going on, but before that? It's a generalized misery amplifier, not something you can look for.
Rather, the thing is to ask yourself if you're being a kind of person you can enjoy being. Because it turns out cis people are not, as a rule, just resignedly dealing with their familiar old gender!
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