Just read the whole thing about access intimacy by Mia 😅
"Access intimacy is something I am coming to understand that I need in my life; something that I cannot (and don’t want to) live without. I need it to literally be my whole self because access is such an intimate part of my life as a queer physically disabled woman of color adoptee. Without it, relationships exist under a glass ceiling or split by thick frosted windows, with huge pieces of myself never being able to be reached. Without it, there is survival, but rarely true, whole connection."
Hi, I'm Jules
I'm a 30+ enby trans person living in Germany. I like reading & writing, knitting & spinning yarn, photography (my heart is still with filmphotography). I love plants & caring for them, being out in the woods, cuddling my dog. Sometimes I draw things, but it's complicated. I want to spend more time doing it.
I just like making things.
I am disabled in different ways. You can talk to me in English, German and French. This account is more cozy than @Jules
I’ve seen quite a few small communities gradually unravel because the moderators erred on the side of not banning people who were clearly violating the spirit but not the letter of the rules. As jerks gradually leaked in, the people who didn’t want to be around jerks gradually drifted away, and the community was left as nothing more than a sludgy residue.
I turned my old eee PC into a retro gaming machine using #lakka and now I can play all the old console games from the 80s and 90s while in bed. I plugged in my big screen and a cheap USB SNES type gamepad and my hands just remember how it works after more than 25 years!
I just rediscovered secret of mana and of course Mario world and star trek games and there is so much more 😅👍
ME has taken away:
*my hopes to work in a plant nursery and run gardening workshops
*most of the energy to garden and grow my own food
*being able to see most of my friends
*my ability to financially support myself, and contribute to our joint income
*being able to travel around Europe and see friends in Germany, The Netherlands and Belgium
*being an activist on international development and environmental justice issues
*being able to walk in hills and valleys
*my confidence and reliability
*so many dreams
*my sense of self
#MillionsMissing #LivingWithME #MECFS
#MillionsMissing event in Sheffield today, raising awareness of #MECFS. I was heartened to see over 200 people there, plus my MP, who was supporting calls for investment in biomedical research, and an end to damaging interventions such as Graded Exercise Therapy, and trying to take children with ME away from their families and into care.
Did you know there's an app to help you check the accessiblity of your Android apps? It's called Accessiblity Scanner and it's quite helpful
"An important step to passing in the world of normals was first to “pass” in one’s own thinking."
#Disability and Passing - Blurring the Lines of Identity
meta, a short list of Mastodon forks / long Show more
Our Mastodon fork has BBCode, custom emoji size, unlisted + local posting option, options to select the kinds of text formatting you want to hide, media hiding behind CWs and bigger character limits.
Glitch-soc has a bunch of stuff listed on that page.
Computer Fairies has a lot of glitch-soc features (not sure if all) plus BBCode, BBCode in content warnings, Mutant Standard emoji as default, a followers-only + local timeline posting option, bigger character limits on bio and probably other things too.
Kibousoft's Customized Mastodon is probably the origin of all BB Code, although other implementations cited are more complete imho.
There are also other instances with custom character limits, features that were dropped from the "original"'/"default" code, larger columns on all themes, some glitch-soc features but not all, or other features.
If you have the means and technical knowledge to do so, please don't be discouraged from modifying your own instance. There are other instances with custom code. There are people who can probably help.
Ableism Show more
Don't know if I could word this better but I'm disappointed that the stim toy craze didn't result in any more acceptance of how Autistic people generally stim. I've seen no conversation whatsoever about how big physical stims like flapping or rocking are important to us. I enjoy fidget cubes as much as the next person but I'm bitter that my main stims are still pathologized.
I'd rather things were advertised this way -- "one three-inch step," "narrowest doorway/hallway is X inches," "unlit outside," "mechanical keysafe lock, where numbers are on a dial so you have to actually see them and not guess position from a keypad" -- than be called "accessible" when they aren't.
"Fully accessible" never is, so give us the details.
If you don't know what they are, hire disabled people to tell you. We need the money, and we are highly motivated for these things to be better!
A goal I think aro activism should focus on is building and supporting systems of community care.
I think an important part of aro activism should be creating space for the possibility of never having a romantic partner. But, that means more than just being single, it also means making sure people can survive and thrive while single.
Our amatonormative world expects a lot of the support we need as people to come from our romantic partner. But, if you don’t have one, does that mean you just shouldn’t get the support?
Question to those who've had EMDR Show more
Hey I have emdr soon (a couple of weeks) so I want to ask those of you who've had that some questions.
- how fast do you typically see improvements
- what to expect after
- therapist mentioned physical responses. How bad were they for you?
And anything else you wish you had known. Please let me know!
queer nb trans writer, handspinner, knitter & photographer / totally not neurotypical / disabled / (former) computer scientist
The Wandering Shop is a Mastodon instance initially geared for the science fiction and fantasy community but open to anyone. We want our 'local' timeline to have the feel of a coffee shop at a good convention: tables full of friendly conversation on a wide variety of topics. We welcome everyone who wants to participate, so long as you're willing to abide by our code of conduct.