Just read the whole thing about access intimacy by Mia 😅
"Access intimacy is something I am coming to understand that I need in my life; something that I cannot (and don’t want to) live without. I need it to literally be my whole self because access is such an intimate part of my life as a queer physically disabled woman of color adoptee. Without it, relationships exist under a glass ceiling or split by thick frosted windows, with huge pieces of myself never being able to be reached. Without it, there is survival, but rarely true, whole connection."
Hi, I'm Jules
I'm a 30+ enby trans person living in Germany. I like reading & writing, knitting & spinning yarn, photography (my heart is still with filmphotography). I love plants & caring for them, being out in the woods, cuddling my dog. Sometimes I draw things, but it's complicated. I want to spend more time doing it.
I just like making things.
I am disabled in different ways. You can talk to me in English, German and French. This account is more cozy than @Jules
meta, a short list of Mastodon forks / long Show more
Our Mastodon fork has BBCode, custom emoji size, unlisted + local posting option, options to select the kinds of text formatting you want to hide, media hiding behind CWs and bigger character limits.
Glitch-soc has a bunch of stuff listed on that page.
Computer Fairies has a lot of glitch-soc features (not sure if all) plus BBCode, BBCode in content warnings, Mutant Standard emoji as default, a followers-only + local timeline posting option, bigger character limits on bio and probably other things too.
Kibousoft's Customized Mastodon is probably the origin of all BB Code, although other implementations cited are more complete imho.
There are also other instances with custom character limits, features that were dropped from the "original"'/"default" code, larger columns on all themes, some glitch-soc features but not all, or other features.
If you have the means and technical knowledge to do so, please don't be discouraged from modifying your own instance. There are other instances with custom code. There are people who can probably help.
Ableism Show more
Don't know if I could word this better but I'm disappointed that the stim toy craze didn't result in any more acceptance of how Autistic people generally stim. I've seen no conversation whatsoever about how big physical stims like flapping or rocking are important to us. I enjoy fidget cubes as much as the next person but I'm bitter that my main stims are still pathologized.
I'd rather things were advertised this way -- "one three-inch step," "narrowest doorway/hallway is X inches," "unlit outside," "mechanical keysafe lock, where numbers are on a dial so you have to actually see them and not guess position from a keypad" -- than be called "accessible" when they aren't.
"Fully accessible" never is, so give us the details.
If you don't know what they are, hire disabled people to tell you. We need the money, and we are highly motivated for these things to be better!
A goal I think aro activism should focus on is building and supporting systems of community care.
I think an important part of aro activism should be creating space for the possibility of never having a romantic partner. But, that means more than just being single, it also means making sure people can survive and thrive while single.
Our amatonormative world expects a lot of the support we need as people to come from our romantic partner. But, if you don’t have one, does that mean you just shouldn’t get the support?
Question to those who've had EMDR Show more
Hey I have emdr soon (a couple of weeks) so I want to ask those of you who've had that some questions.
- how fast do you typically see improvements
- what to expect after
- therapist mentioned physical responses. How bad were they for you?
And anything else you wish you had known. Please let me know!
like, i'm happy that a resource i need might also be convenient for someone who's not disabled! that's amazing! but i don't think enough value is put on disabled communities and their needs, and saying "everyone can use accessibililty" can feed into it. disabled people, on their own, are important enough that accessibility is necessary. the fact that it's beneficial for everyone is just an added bonus.
disability; bike lights; PSA Show more
Friends and fellow cyclists.
Consider using just steady lights instead of blinking ones. I am epileptic and have to bike everywhere to get around. Blinking lights, at best, give me a searing headache, and at worst a seizure.
Yes, it may take more battery or more charge power, but you are Still visible and not hurting people's heads and putting them at risk.
Here are my yarns for the Oracle shawl #bigRoundThingKAL19
I finally decided to knit the Oracle shawl: https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/oracle-3
I'm still looking forward to the Knitter's Almanac and maybe there will be a classic Pi shawl some day, but I'm not feeling so much "classic lace" right now. I really want to make a thing I'm actually going to wear.
And I'm going for a combination of #handspun yarns :) I need to find the right needles so I get a loose enough gauge so that the shawl won't end up too small though!
hello fediverse, I am flausi, a #nonbinary #trans cyborg punk squirrel. I work as an accountant and #amwriting #sciencefiction. I live in berlin, germany and #amreading a lot, at the moment donna #haraway's "staying with the trouble". and I think a lot about living with #trauma, good surviving in capitalism, loving, sex, getting older, #aikido, #queerfashion, networks of solidarity, ecology, #queer #feminism, pictures, everyday magic
These are so great!
Designer Mahmoud Tammam posed a creative challenge to himself: an experimental typographic series of Arabic illustrated words.
Definitely one of the best things that has happened to me this week was I got to see a native German speaker learn that "give up the ghost" is a phrase English speakers say too.
He'd just heard it and thought it was one weird person translating a German idiom literally.
He kept saying "but it sounds really weird in English!"
Made me smile. I had no idea it was used in German too, so we all learned something.
queer nb trans writer, handspinner, knitter & photographer / totally not neurotypical / disabled / (former) computer scientist
The Wandering Shop is a Mastodon instance initially geared for the science fiction and fantasy community but open to anyone. We want our 'local' timeline to have the feel of a coffee shop at a good convention: tables full of friendly conversation on a wide variety of topics. We welcome everyone who wants to participate, so long as you're willing to abide by our code of conduct.