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My synagogue doesn't have any harassment or 'what to do if someone does bad shit' policies. Trying to correct that.

Does anyone have resources/examples/etc so I can put a good draft in front of the board?

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@jessmahler

Good question!

I'm gonna bet there's some Reformed, Reconstructionist, or Renweal synagogue that has this.

...just ran a web search, gonna read some of the results and post them!

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@jessmahler

Three links came up immediately. First, some Code of Conduct from a Renweal organization:

aleph.org/code-of-ethics/

Then one from the Reformed folks:

aleph.org/code-of-ethics/

Then this article on drafting a code of conduct that I saw posted on a bunch of websites:

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@jessmahler

An awful short document from the Conservative folks

uscj.org/assets/resources/Stan

A vague one from another synagogue

bethdavid.com/code-of-conduct.

A document from the Humanists
humanisticrabbis.org/ahr-code-

Some thoughts while searching this.

1) Why so little reconstructionist stuff??

2) I was surprised not even Sha’ar Zahav in SF had a CoC!

3) Maybe I"m searching the wrong term? Is there a better term than Code of Conduct?

4) Maybe this is self-evident?

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@emacsen
Re #1, similar. I have a meeting with someone from the official recon parent organization next week and will be bringing this up.

Re #3, harassment policy is the standard business term, sometimes grievance policy.

Re #4, the reason I'm doing this is because after a nasty incident in June, the synagogue admin said to me that she thought she 'just had to put up with' shit that had been going on years. (1/2)

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@emacsen

When I bitched out to person pulling the shit, everyone backed me up and was glad that SOMEONE had finally said SOMETHING.

Moral of the story: often harassment is self evident and folks know it is bad, that doesn't mean anyone knows what to do about it when it happens.

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@jessmahler

Missing stairs come in many forms.

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@jessmahler

These are my own views.

I think conegrations, more than Free Software communities, have a greater obligation towards their membership to be accepting of difference.

But where that disappears is when that conrgegegant moves to a position of volunteerism or leadership. Then they become bound by a new set of standards.

Looking a bit further, this doc also seems good and appropriate:

jewishyouthlibrary.com/templat

I would go one step further, though...

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@jessmahler

I would argue that a congregation has some obligation towards trying to help shape and reform a person who has done wrong things unintentionally towards better behavior going forward.

Obviously this is not always possible, for a variety of reasons, but it's an area where the social obligations of the congregation are different than a workplace or a social club.

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@emacsen Largely agreed. It's one of (several) reasons I don't want to just pull 'standard' harassment policies or code of conduct.

I also can't go restorative justice route -- not enough people in the congregation know enough about how to make it work, and it only works when the perpetrator (for lack of better word) wants to make things right.

I'm thinking of pulling h eavily on teshuva -- that someone will assist code violator in working through teshuva process...

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@emacsen ...and *penalties* as such will only come into play if the teshuva process is rejected

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@jessmahler

I completely agree. Yes to both!

Judaism has mechanisms for atonement and other relevant systems in place that should (I hope) function as a model, but this has to be done with an accused who is genuinely interested in change, and people running the process who understand how/where to draw lines and not get sucked into a rabbit hole.

I have more thoughts on this than I want to share on the Fediverse.

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@jessmahler geekfeminism.fandom.com/wiki/C has a bunch of links and specifically shouts out geekfeminismdotorg.wordpress.c as a good code of conduct

we have to admit we never finished reading it, but frameshiftconsulting.com/resou seems like a really good detailed resource on creating and enforcing codes of conduct

ashedryden.com/blog/codes-of-c is a FAQ we remember appreciating

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