@takeonrules What I have seen and experienced is that children need to be able to cut connection with their parents in order to begin seeing themselves as adults. 'Cut the ties' (a reference to leading strings) in the old saying.
But when there is a healthy relationship with the parents and a solid foundation for themselfs, they will return and build new relationships with their parents, as adult-to-adult, equal-to-equal.
@takeonrules I think Gibrans 'house of tomorrow' is simply the future, and what that future is is different for everyone. There will come a time, sooner or later, when we all severed from our children permanently.
By releasing them freely, to fly their own course we let them grown strong and confident in themselves.
But I think the analogy of the archer.... hm... (brb)
@jessmahler I definitely see the metaphor, yet at a visceral literal sense my house is now empty of my children. There were some ugly things related to my divorce that increased strain. So those words, in their metaphor, pierce with their literal words.
It's stunningly beautiful and poignant. I'm embracing these emotions of loss and hope.
@jessmahler *receives hug*
Thanks. For myself, these moments – of crying, breaking down, and aching in the soul – always bring joy. I need these heavy clouds and rain to nourish me.
@jessmahler that's the experience that I hope I've planted. I see a few seedlings of hope poking through the soil, and need to keep watering them.
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