Here's a question: has boredom/rebellion from conformity or anxiety/uncertainty of expectation been a larger driver in your choices in your life?

I think the answers to this might be generational a bit, and I think it might be impacting my story-writing.

The story I'm writing works better with boredom and rebellion as the impulse for change, but to seem 'true' to current life the characters would be provoked into anxiety.

Reconciling this, I think I might be a bit out of sync with either my generation or some aspect of characterization in an important way, and I'm trying to understand it.


@aredridel Both, but I may be a bit weird that way.

'Rebellion from conformity' has driven most of my personal life choices.
Anxiety/uncertainty of expectation has driven much of my interaction with the wider world.

Maybe it doesn't have to be an either/or for the characters?

@jessmahler Yeah, that's a thing I'm trying to reconcile. But if anything, these characters need a bit of public weirdness.

And to some degree they feel opposite: you can't conform if you don't know what's expected of you

I'm still not sure of the qualia of that though.

@aredridel Some expectations are clearly laid out-- you are supposed to be monogamous, to form a nuclear family, have a good paying job, etc.

Some expectations are more insidious-- how do you start a conversation with someone you don't like? How do you handle a confrontation? What are you supposed to do when your broke and the bill collector keeps hounding you? Few people get taught what's expected in these situations, just tossed in, sink or swim.

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