There's a trend I really dislike, wherein someone gets excited about something, and someone pops up to tell them that actually, it's not exciting at all. Not because it's problematic or because the excited person is misinformed, but because [only tangentially related thing] has happened before, so it's not cool now.

Please, I implore you: DON'T DO THIS.

I've seen it happen on posts from stuff about Beyoncé to the moons of Jupiter.

Just. Think before you "contribute": is your contribution specifically designed to rain on someone's parade? If it is, don't.

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Pointing out that something is deeply problematic? OK, good, people need to know.

Telling someone they can't be excited because...idk, Beyoncé isn't the first Black woman to be recognized for her success? Blergh, pass.

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There is a difference between useful information ("hey, fyi, this person is a known Bad Apple") and opinion ("well, you CAN get excited about Beyoncé, I guess, but she's just following a path that was laid by Madam CJ Walker, so...").

If you don't share in their excitement and you don't have anything nice or deeply relevant to say...maybe...don't????

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@hafnia Isn't the best response the one that says, "Wow, I am glad you found this thing!". You can follow up with anecdotes of your own journey/discovery (if appropriate), or, if this person is really far behind, some next steps on their path of discovery! "Did you know that there are also a few others? Once you are done exploring that, you should also check out this!"

@ginguin EXACTLY. If someone comments about how they just found out about one of my favorite things, I'm going to point them in the direction of more stuff like it!

If they post about something I LOATHE or find derivative...I'm not going to say shit! Amazing how that works.

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