haf, blurst of her name @hafnia@wandering.shop

Hi.

If you are trying to get my attention and I don't respond to you, you have two options:

1). If we're mufos: send me a DM with what it's about and I'll get back to you.

2). If we're not mufos: verify that I don't have your instance silenced, then ping me again.

Current instances silenced (in addition to those silenced by wandering.shop):

elekk.xyz
fosstodon.org
monads.online
myasstodon.xyz

If your instance is silenced, I will not see your post.

Time to do this again, I suppose...

Hello! Yes, my account is locked. I will probably approve your follow request if:

-your bio is filled out and mentions something other than what languages you code in/how much you love Linux
-you have some posts on your account that are not you "well, actually..."ing other people
-you have a profile picture that's not a random anime girl (picrew and the like are okay)

I said earlier that I'd talk about this, so.

It's important to know what DARVO is and how it's used as a tool to bully people into silence/complicity in bad behavior.

DARVO is an acronym. It stands for:

Deny
Attack
Reverse Victim and Offender.

It is a technique that is used by abusive people to cover up their abuse.

It is incredibly common. Knowing how to spot it is key.

Everyone is some percentage of goblin, werewolf, or vampire, no exceptions

I keep seeing a lot of apologies for not being interesting or funny or positive, and I just wanna say:

You are a person, not a brand. You do not need to be consistently anything but yourself. If you need to take a break, that's OK. We're all people, we'll understand.

She's lying on me and purring hard enough I can feel the vibrations through the covers

Big Cat came, Big Cat went, and now Little Cat has appeared for her shift in the loaf factory.

Today post-migraine I read "On Earth We're Briefly Gorgeous".

Not entirely sure what to say about it, but certain points definitely hit home.

(I liked it, and I'm debating whether to recommend it to the sibling or not.)

doing the math on that it's like, "oh, I still live like a grad student" too, like, damn, OK, still living like I'm fukkin broke

to be clear we're fine on money, it's just weird to see yr bills go from about ~$1500 outgoing to $2100 outgoing and not immediately having a clear sense of why!

"Why were my outgoing expenses like $600 above average this month?" Haf wonders, poking at her credit card statement.

and then, ofc, three charges in a row...

AUTO RENTAL $250
AUTO REPAIR $150
TOW $100

The other stuff wasn't terribly interesting, it was things like small quarterly bills.

Dang, being an adult blows.

the husband, out of nowhere: I know I've been watching The Expanse because I keep having dreams about SPACE.

He clarified that he's having dreams about solving engineering problems in space.

lol?

anyway I spent most of today down with a migraine so if your timely has been strangely quiet now you know why

From a friend, this was in response to a restaurant in their town advertising meatless meatball subs with vegan swiss.

🤔

Occasionally one of my ears will start to hurt in a specific way and I'll have to put drops in it. This process is Uncomfortable, and all I can think of is how when we first got the Little Cat we had to do something similar for her, and how she would wriggle and meep.

I had sympathy for her then, and I have it doubly for her now :|