Folks who don't care like to tell themselves--and everyone else--they have a "thick skin." They don't. They have no skin. Not caring is easy. It's just what broken, fragile people do when they're embarrassed and afraid. They're not fooling anyone, either.
I'm gonna give a shit. It's hard. It hurts like Hell. I'm gonna do it anyway, and so are you. We're strong enough, there are always more of us, and we won't back down.
Tangental: I'd encountered a thought, back when friends online were dealing with a problem. They got some reactions that compounded the original pain, from others explaining at length and in Great Detail why *they* would never find themselves in such straights.
Oh, hang on... I've done a websearch, found the thing: don't worry, I'll post the precise text on the next rock, since I hope you'll find it useful.
@deadbounce - from Teresa Nielsen Hayden of Making Light, "...(t)he more pathological specimens have two weird quirks. One is that when they hear about a semi-random bad thing happening to someone who didn't deserve it, they feel a rush of anxiety, which they experience as something the victim is doing to them, rather than something they're doing to themselves."
(This takes you directly to the source comment - https://nielsenhayden.com/makinglight/archives/013103.html#563893)
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