looking at the latest hn thread about mastodon and seeing at least a half-dozen people who are essentially saying: "i went on mastodon and the people on there were behaving in a kind and respectful way, and it was too stressful to make myself behave in a kind and respectful way too, so i left"

weirds me out so much when i read stuff like this. like gives me a massive huge "unknowability of the other" feeling

@jk I have chronic fatigue syndrome, and sometimes when I'm really tired it can feel like a lot of effort to be considerate of other people, especially when their needs are ones I don't see very often. Even tho I think it's important to do that!
I don't get the impression those people mean it that way, tho