Tangental: I'd encountered a thought, back when friends online were dealing with a problem. They got some reactions that compounded the original pain, from others explaining at length and in Great Detail why *they* would never find themselves in such straights.
Oh, hang on... I've done a websearch, found the thing: don't worry, I'll post the precise text on the next rock, since I hope you'll find it useful.
@deadbounce - from Teresa Nielsen Hayden of Making Light, "...(t)he more pathological specimens have two weird quirks. One is that when they hear about a semi-random bad thing happening to someone who didn't deserve it, they feel a rush of anxiety, which they experience as something the victim is doing to them, rather than something they're doing to themselves."
(This takes you directly to the source comment - https://nielsenhayden.com/makinglight/archives/013103.html#563893)
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