Middle-aged, US expat in W. Europe. Married to Loving Spouse. Share custody of 2 adult cats and many interests accruing from 30+ years of marriage.
Lots of my interests are listed in my profile, but it's not exhaustive. I'm comfortable in my cis-het being, but try to be sympathetic to all types; It's hard being human.
I curate followers pretty hard, but if you like what you see, you'll improve your chances if you drop me a line to start a conversation.
one time i got so mad at a gender form i made a website about gender forms https://garbados.github.io/hall-of-gender-forms/
A razor ad addressing toxic masculinity and domestic violence has seriously confused MRAs
Body whining Show more
Okay, body - what was with the weird PING in my hip tendon as I was trying to lever myself up off from the tatami during aikido training tonight?
(As a precaution, I decided that I wouldn't take any falls after that - the irony being that it wasn't the *falls*, it was getting back up again that subjected me to this strange sensation, as if the tendon "stuck" suddenly, then released like a plucked string. Bleh!)
Link: The Boston Molasses Flood Is Worth Taking Seriously https://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/boston-molasses-flood-100-year-anniversary
chicago, fire, dog tragedy, fundraisers for people and groups (this is really sad) Show more
A Chicago dog boarding facility which was particularly friendly to "bully breeds" and pibbles had a horrible fire which killed over 30 dogs at this point. Another 20+ were rescued. There are fundraisers for both the owner (who was out of town and lost all his own dogs in the fire):
and the various rescues who need to find new places to board their pups now:
@guinan I think yeah - now that I'e been thinking about it more I'm not so keen either. There's a real lack of utopian fiction in favour of dark/gritty stuff. I think the hollywood consensus is that if you don't have morally grey, dark brooding characters, it sucks. But there needs to be more fiction out there showing a future to aspire to, and there's no reason that that can't also be an exceptionally colourful horror show (eg: the original series)
With sadness we decided that we are going to shut down Forgotten Key, the game studio I have been running for 7 years.
We have released a few demos on itch.io and such (can be found in the link).
Boost to your hearts content, it might give some talented devs a new job.
teacher strike Show more
I am absolutely in solidarity with the teachers striking in LA. But taking a step back, realize that the conditions they are striking for are *not* education problems. Like many urban districts, including where I taught in Boston, our schools are unable to compensate for the fact that we do not take care of our people. Failing in that, the symptoms of de facto segregation, systemic oppression, and poverty fall squarely on the shoulders of public educators, who must teach everyone.
the saddest thing to me is when other trans guys bully and condition themselves until they've learned to act exactly like cis men.
We get screwed over in so many aspects because we're trans and yet we're throwing away one of our few virtues: being socialized from birth to be empathetic and compassionate toward others. "but its feminine!" my dudes if kindness and genuine connection to others is unequivocally feminine (which it isnt) i never want to be masculine. And being feminine doesn't make you less of a man anyway.
Don't drink the cis masculinity koolaid my dudes. Stay gold trans boy.
Because seismic waves are slower than internet signals, it's possible to send an alert after an earthquake starts, but before the shaking reaches you. A few seconds' warning is enough to pull over to the side of the road, climb down from a ladder, step away from a high shelf or window, put down a scalpel, etc.
Mexico & Japan both have systems like this, and Los Angeles has launched a pilot program with apps for both Android and iOS.
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