@Mainebot I know. I'll start worrying about 50 once I reach 30 without feeling accomplished

@DialMforMara what counts as accomplishment?

@Mainebot
I don't know, and that's part of the problem

@DialMforMara I think you're seeing yourself up to fail by worrying about the consequences of something you don't even know you want. Things are good now, right? That's a good accomplishment.

@OldBrushNewPaper
I'm glad, and hearing that helps. Thank you.

@DialMforMara Keep sharing your awesomeness, before it develops its own event horizon and eats the known universe. *wink* /tease

(Less silly) Do give yourself some kindness today, since I can't be there to give you a cup of tea myself.

@Julia when I'm 30, I'll worry about middle age

@DialMforMara @Julia Speaking as someone in that fabled part of her life... I found 40-50 rather blossoming for myself, personally. There were some external supports, but also... a sense of confidence in my own experience, versus what people were trying to tell me I "should" be/do...

@OldBrushNewPaper That is so reassuring because I'm turning 31 soon and I'm just freaking out all over the place.

@jake @Julia @OldBrushNewPaper I'm just counting the days till we get to be in this century's 20's and we go all wooohooo on it and not having MOM to make us hide who we are...

Wait, was that just me? 🤷🏻‍♂️

Also, I subscribe to what Jake said. The pressure is off! Phew!

@OldBrushNewPaper @DialMforMara @Julia I've been describing my age lately as no-fucks-left-years over forty. Time is not necessarily short, but it has become too precious to waste on people who want to tell me how to be.