And, pay mind that often misgendering cis people _is_ spoken violence towards trans people. It's an ironic statement that disvalues queergendered and trans people. So, to me, the willingness to misgender even in a "neutral way" shows me they're maybe not fully convinced that pronouns matter to everyone.
Yeah you can, it's just less likely to matter to them. Mind, less likely. It matters to a lot of people.
If people use they pronouns for me and I correct them, it's because I'm a she/her person that is comfortable with that. it feels weird and wrong. But I have no big reactions.
If they continue and tell me that it doesn't matter, it just shows me their benevolence has a limit. And that's on them.
Are there spaces where cis are at the low end of the power spectrum and does it matter.
Principle and being a person of principle states that any malicious acts you do reflect on yourself. So even if the other person is not bothered by being misgendered, you still misgendered. (I am here speaking about doing it on purpose, not in an accidental or using the neutral they kinda way).
So you can't really misgender cis people?
A couple of days ago I was told "it's okay, you can't really misgender cis people" when I corrected someone from they to her after reading her bio where pronouns are stated. And I didn't really respond cause my knee jerk reaction was "...kinda."
So I invite you into this brainspace as I try to unpick my feelings on this.
Norwegian Poet and Digital Culture student, bi, she/her, 30
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